My pastor's wife just recently gave me a book to read entitled "Feminine Appeal- Seven Virtues of a Godly Wife and Mother" by Carolyn Mahaney. Another MUST READ!!!
"Older women likewise are to be reverent in behavior, not slanderers or slaves to much wine. They are to teach what is good, and so train the young women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled."
"There are many Christian women who agree with and adhere to the virtues listed in Titus 2, but are unaware of the ultimate purpose of these practical applications. These women are avid proponents of society's need to return to "traditional values;" yet that is not what this passage is advocating. We are not commanded to love our husbands and to love our children so we can have strong, happy families like those from a previous era. To be sure, we experience enjoyable and fruitful family relationships when we follow God's instructions. But there is a higher call. On the other hand, there are Christian women who reject some of these virtues because they regard them as restrictive and outdated. They single out "working at home" and "submissive to their own husbands" as purely cultural requirements that are not applicable in modern society. However, that idea is erroneous. This passage remains authoritative and relevant for women today."
-excerpt taken from "Feminine Appeal" pg. 16
So what is the "ultimate purpose of these practical applications"?
-that the word of God may not be reviled... (v.5)
-so that an opponent may be put to shame, having nothing evil to say about us (v.8)
-so that in everything (we) may adorn the doctrine of God our Savior (v.10)
By our behavior, people see the gospel of Jesus Christ. As we live out our days, we are a reflection of what Christ did on the cross. People don't judge us according to our beliefs/theology. They judge us by our behavior and whether what we believe effects how we live our lives. By our actions, we either honor God or misrepresent His truth. Mahaney wrote "How sobering it is to realize that our behavior has the potential to discredit the gospel. But how exciting it is to think that we can actually commend the gospel!"
I love how Mahaney finishes her first chapter:
"Consider the loveliness of a woman who passionately adores her husband, who tenderly cherishes her children, who creates a warm and peaceful home, who exemplifies purity, self-control, and kindness in her character and who gladly submits to her husband's leadership- for all the days God grants her life. I dare say there are few things that display the gospel jewel with greater elegance. This is true feminine appeal."